Identity, my personal take
Yes, I decided to tackle what my personal take on the big, vast and complex subject of ‘Identity‘ , one of the most important possessions of ours which we can’t lose or sale, at any cost. I dare not to present here a very researched thesis on the subject, because I am in no way qualified for that :):). But I will try to present some views which I personally think relates to the subject at hand. One’s own identity is too vast and too important for anyone, much beyond the conventional documents proving of one’s existence such as passport or voter’s identity card or social security number. It’s far bigger than that, it’s me and you, in our truest forms, our simple basic human self, and that’s undisputed.
Identity, some thoughts, past and present
Where does it start
I feel our identity starts the very moment we take the initial form in our mothers’ wombs. And our identity is born out of our parents, having traits of both in certain ways or the other. And yet, in all our similarities with our parents in features and other traits, we develop a distinct identity of ourselves which is unique in nature. This is the identity which stays with us and defines us, in every moment of our lives.
Has anything changed
In my generation if I look back in the last forty to fifty years back to days even before I was born, there have been significant changes in the way our identity has shaped and evolved. In these present times in the era of digitization and social media, our identities have taken new shape, new colors, new features, as we become more and more immune to multiple identities, happy enough to walk in different shoes and become supermen and superwomen in our daily walks of lives. Now, my concentration on our identities will be only on positive sides, because I am a very positive person, maybe the most important trait of my identity 🙂
What are the reasons of these changes
The reasons for which our identities have taken a great swing of changes is primarily because of our fixation of peer pressure and our die hard obsession of giving too much importance to what others might think. The changes our society and our surroundings undergo from time to time affects directly on our own identities, reshaping and remodel them from time to time. But, in most of the cases, the changes are positive and good ones, as we try to embrace the good things in life in such great varieties and embrace them in our identities, and feel confident about it.
What remains the same
In spite of all these changes in time that we go through, many of them are natural progressions into the future due to technological advances, changes in style and taste, changes in way of living, in education, entertainment and as such in every affair of life, and most importantly in our relations, the only one thing that stays constant is our true self, our true identity, our unique persona, our basic human self. And that stands undisputed and unchallenged by anyone, no matter what opinion or viewpoint undertaken by anyone about us. Our true identity is our innermost self, our basic values, our beliefs, our thinking and our behavioural traits and our features, not concocted, not ornamented, not made up.
Our identity is our greatest asset….some thoughts.
Does our identity depend upon what others perceive it is. Even if in many cases peer perception and perception from many others very easily affects our way of thinking, but what others think hardly defines who we are and what is our identity. Others only see what they want to see, and most of the times, they see the inverted shadows of the true self, and form their skewed opinions and easy judgement on someone they know nothing about in the truest sense. Sometimes these judgements can be for the better, but in most of the cases, they don’t truly reflect on the person and the identity. Yet, it is sad and unfortunate when repeated judgement and harmful opinions affect an identity and influences it to change for the negative. We should not and must not depend on what others think abut us all the times.
We love to wear our identity out in various fashions and moods. We love to feel confident in our make over and be happy within if not rather to make others happy. We have every right to feel happy and enjoy our lives the way we want to. We have every right to love ourselves and love others in this process and cherish each other’s identities. But we don’t have any right to pass judgements on anybody without knowing anything, just based on biasness towards one’s language, skin color, ethnicity, origin of birthplace and many other factors. The ones who do this discrimination invites karma onto them, as it is well known and proven that what you give comes back, and comes back in a plenty. Our basic identity is of love, goodness, happy, positive being and kind self. We should always keep that in mind and love each other without pride and prejudice.
The recent events which happened with my very good and dear friend Shalini disturbed me much and prompted me to pen down my thoughts regarding the same, thus this post. This is for you Shalini and you inspire me in every way, and the words in the quote beside very truely describes you. And her post Colour once again reminds us of the still existing vicious circle of hate and discrimination we live in and become victims unnecessarily.
Let us live and enjoy this beautiful world and our beautiful lives in harmony, peace and love for each other and make this world a far greater place to look forward to 🙂