Ever felt stagnant in life with no point, progress or direction at your workplace? Ever felt the years pass by before you and feel no different or improvement in your current quality of life? Tired of the acts you have to put up with your colleagues and boss just to stay in the DMZ of some clan based office politics? Exhausted with serving ever demanding and less understanding clients each day? Dragging your feet to work each morning and being enslaved to your work and paycheck? Tired of pulling down a deep sign everytime you see someone post a picture of a vacation destination you could ever only visit in your imaginations? Ever felt that your horizons are the height and width of the 3 and a half corners of your cubicle? Paranoid of having your boss breathe down your neck each time you play with your smartphone? If you felt any of these don’t blame yourself! I felt these in all my years of employment until one day I took a leap of faith – travel solo to a country halfway across the world.
As crazy as it may sound, I even resigned from my well paid employment before booking my airplane tickets, packing my trusty old stroller bag with what winter clothes I have for a destination halfway around the world which I only saw from a picture beset in a weather I never experienced my entire life. You can stop gasping now. It was all real and the knots it made in my stomach as I made my way to the departure gates made me dizzy already. Despite encouragement from my friends, my hands remain sweaty as my mind continued to debate on if this was a bad idea and if I should just turn around and rescind my resignation.
Then it came to me as a whisper and as I peeled my ears back and away from the noise of the airport it felt like the wind blowing up my spine. It strengthened my muscles as I breathed in and returned the warmth to my palms with enough vigour to lift myself up and grapple my stroller bag firmly. And as I breathed out all my sighs and panic and worries left my body leaving only excitement and happiness – something only freedom could understand. And as my lips peeled from ear to ear my eyes never opened bigger than before seeing further than before and my mind lit up like a lightbulb emanating heat and enthusiasm in everything I saw around the airport – the people, the destinations on the gates, the shops, the products, the airport, the planes and everything else in between. And without saying, I was at my gate ready to board my plane ready for an adventure of a lifetime.
That thing that changed me at the airport was confidence.
And the whole trip changed my life and how I perceived life completely. I got to pursue my passion of travelling and sharing my experiences to help encourage others to believe in themselves and take the leap of faith as well. There’s a world of opportunities out there and your skills and talents and passion is valuable to many other people. It’s a big world we live in and travelling helps you find your passion easier and faster. Many successful entrepreneurs stepped out of their comfort zone or employment rat race much later in their years resulting in not many years left to enjoy their success with loved ones. And No, I’m not selling you a get-rich-quick-passive-investment-network-marketing-multilevel gibberish scheme! I’m sharing a personal experience of how anyone, regardless of background, gender, or even age can change their lives by personally committing to their life’s passion and enjoying every second of it. I’ve summarised some valuable pointers to help you get started.
Confidence isn’t something people tell you that you have. It isn’t something you eat or swallow like a supplement. It isn’t something that you wait your turn for it to magically drop down from the sky. It isn’t something you pay or sign up for. It isn’t something you can buy with riches. It isn’t something you wear or put on or do that gives you more. It isn’t something physical that you can feel, give, receive or multiply. It isn’t something you can take. It isn’t something you pick up from your job. It isn’t something you do or study from books or written literature. It isn’t something you can copy from imitating others. It isn’t someplace that you go to to receive it. It isn’t even related to age or who you are and where you came from.
Confidence is you.
Confidence is what you determine it to be. It is as much as you perceive yourself to have and not for people to tell you how much you have. It is all in you, within you and for you. It is something everyone is born with but we just don’t know how much of it because we don’t know much about ourselves. It is something free that is naturally grown from within you. It is something that can emanate from you to inspire or influence others. You are the representation of your confidence and what you represent confidence is what represents you. You define your confidence and what confidence you define defines you. You control your confidence and confidence controls you. You measure your confidence and are a measure of your confidence. The more you know yourself, the more confidence you have.
Don’t let other people, even parents, determine your confidence and parents shouldn’t limit their children’s perception of themselves. You are you and you are unique! You are special! All that you ever studied for, been examined for, graded for, graduated for, worked for, received from, or even experienced are knowledge, skills, talents and experience – tools for life like the tools in your shed or the cutlery in your kitchen drawer.
No. I’m not asking for a mass resignation drive or “hate your boss” or quit your job campaign. Learn yourself more and more. Know yourself and what tools you have so far first. Strategize yourself to prepare for the road ahead. Before you embark on a journey by yourself you need the ammunition and tools to sustain you on your life’s adventure. Know that these knowledge and tools are yours and they add on to your confidence to start your own thing. It is up to you how to utilise these tools for yourself. All that you learned and experience in life is not what defines you but is what helps you know your confidence more intimately. Be confident with yourself. Know your likes, dislikes, wants and needs intimately. Only you know yourself better and you should. Nobody can judge other people’s confidence because they are not them or you. Only you can judge yourself. Only you have that right to say things about yourself. Only you define your confidence. Be confident!
There may be many interpretations of passion but mine would definitely be – the drive of doing something that doesn’t tire but gives you new ideas with renewed vigour each day. Life is short and our life’s journey is what defines us, creating our life’s memories. When you know yourself very well, you will have the confidence to easily determine what you would like to do for yourself. It has to be your passion for yourself and not anyone else, not even your loved ones. But when you successfully achieve your passion, the benefits and rewards of your passion can easily be used to support your loved ones. Hence, think first for yourself before helping others and don’t make others a priority in persuing your own passion. Otherwise you will easily tire out and doubt your confidence all over again. It may take long but take as long as you need. Because until you achieve that goal and foundation of your passion, it will be able to account for and multiply the time you get to share with your loved ones in return. If you can do what you do at your job with passion, then you can be your own boss and earn what your boss gets paid for what you do instead of the meagre salary you get at the end of each month. Life is about meeting people, customers, friends and who knows, your potential business partner or life partner! Be you, be confident, be passionate!
Many people whom I’ve met shared with me how easily they gave up on their passion and returned to their old under confident state and blame it on “reality”. Some end up worse than they started and some even ignore the extent of denial towards themselves and to others around them. But what I implore you out there is to think of sustainable solutions to your passion. I have been asked by several followers and friends on how I can maintain my travel blogging lifestyle passion without a paycheck. My personal answer would be that I offer affordable consultation services to all my clients and new potential ones I meet when I travel. And the benefits of having my own company and being my own boss gives me total financial freedom and control wherever I go! No need to call in sick if I woke up late! I can be anywhere and do what I like whenever and wherever. From my years of consulting work back in my employed days, I never really got to enjoy business trips overseas because it is difficult to forget the purpose of the trip and it won’t be anything near leisure. As your own boss you get to plan your travels, itineraries and adventure. Think sustainable solutions for your passion because sustainability is what keeps the passion running. Often people drain themselves because they never thought of sustaining this dream or passion before. Sustenance can come in many forms and not always in the form of money. Sometimes it is manpower support, advisory or consultation support or even sales and marketing ideas to help get your business noticed! The only way to get customers and revenue is through marketing and getting the right advise from the right people unless you already have personal hands on experience on those matters yourself!
For more details about my personal journey from cubicle to the world, read my blog on How I Started A Life of Travel.
It was a pleasure and honour to have been invited by My Daily Journal for me to contribute this guest blog. For those who just happened to read this blog for the first time, I am Calysta Hannah and the website Calysta Hannah is me and all about me. Ever since I was bitten by a big ‘travel bug’ many years back, I have been wandering around the world solo seeking a “cure” by indulging in soulful experiences and unique cultures, festivals and lifestyles. An adventurous solo female entrepreneur with a deep passion for travel and lifestyle, I love to share my experiences, tips, and entrepreneurial advice online on my blogs and with people I meet in person wherever my journey leads me.
Come follow me on my personal adventures as a solo female travel-preneur at calystahannah.com
If life is a book, then the chapters are what you write!
From Cubicle to the World
Guest post by Calysta Hannah
Wow, I have to really believe it true that the great Calysta Hannah agreed to my request to write a Guest post for me, and I thank Calysta a ton for that 🙂 Calysta is a born traveler, and a very successful solo traveler cum entrepreneur who gave up her corporate job to pursue her passion for discovering new places and cultures and her amazing blog is a living testament of that. And her lovely post here truely speaks about the same, from the cubicle to the world, is about opening up your horizons and let your wings fly high to distant lands, learning and making new friends in that journey. With travelling, she manages her business in the same field. She is a wonder woman and an amazing blogger. Do visit her blog to know more about her travelogues, her musings and experiences, you will get hooked, for sure 🙂 Thanks Calysta for this wonderful write up, and hope to do similar things in the future too.